It is the consensus of the majority of Religions and that of the Esoteric Psychologies that we are much more than these "I's", these small "s" selves. Here we speak about the "Self" that part of us that rides above the mundane. This essence, this specialized Self, guides us and support us as the need arises. In the yogic texts, we hear that "we must be as one with this Self and God". Here we are reminded of those words; "I and my father are one." I should have said our words, because they need to become and be, our "flesh and blood".

We need to be aware and meditate on this "Self", to bring this "Self" in line with the" Mind of God" (The Will), the "Unity Consciousness, choose your preference. And after choosing your semantics; "become and be" that.

The evidence points to the complacency of conventional Psychology in the ignoring of this super-consciousness {Cosmic Consciousness}. Except for a few visionaries (Bucke, Maslow and Goldstien) and their ilk. One has to decide for oneself the veracity and the very existence of this area of the mind. And whether it is the source for those meta-values, referred to by Mallow and others. Those of; unselfish love, concern and compassion. It is in this area, wherein lies the potentiality of higher psychic functions and spiritual energies.

It is in this domain of the Real Self that the possibilities for the different dimensions of consciousness exist, and also the various ways of centering in on these possibilities. Both can enable us to grasp a non-dual Reality, as it is. Not as we choose it to be. We are talking about a Reality that is all inclusive. Inclusive of the mind, body and spirit, as a whole, no dichotomy. A unitive entity (Self) that is aware and alive. One that is involved in the perpetual process of growth and evolution in the psychological and the spiritual dimensions of ones' "Self". A process, a way which can, if one so chooses move one towards a becoming, a Being. That which we already are; That which is consciously connected with "All and Everything". Anything that is detrimental or counter-productive to this unification, is a betrayal of who, what and why we are. The same would apply to those things which diminishes the quality of the mind, body and spirit in a relative sense.

We need to seriously ask ourselves, why there are those times when we think and act as our own worst enemy? Agreeing with Pogo when he said; "I saw the enemy and it was I".

Betrayal to oneself or to others is never a pretty thing to be part of or to be a witness too. Partially because the very act is so demeaning and unworthy as to our "Intended Nature". As difficult as is the betrayal by someone who pretends and profess undying love. The consequences for the betrayer is even more difficult. Infidelity to oneself reaches heights of recrimination and guilt that becomes a mental nightmare filled with apprehension and anxiety. While at the same time distorting the relative reality and threatening all relationships. As well as ones' own self-worth, self-respect and that much needed acceptance of ones' self..

The self-doubt and low self-esteem created by infidelity spills over into all facets of ones 'personal activities. It tints everything, even the illicit relationship that lives by the breath of deceit. Reality becomes out of sync. Fantasies and defense mechanisms come center stage, affecting sensory perceptions and rationality. As the search for a scapegoat begins, so that the guilt can be soothed and the blame shifted to soften the shame.

It is painful to watch this process either in a friend, or a loved one, who is caught up in their addiction and their subsequent self-denial. Sincerely believing; they are in control of their lives. That they can change their behavior anytime if they so wish.  Some even believe that their infidelity is justified because of mitigating circumstances or because of another' behavior.

Love, is the giving of the best of oneself to another. The giving of that which is the more excellent to the loved one. Anything less, when the word love is uttered is a travesty. For less; denigrates it's meaning. Violating the inborn commitment and loyalty which lies at the very core of the spoken words; "I love you.

The key words in the above are; "the giving of oneself." The giving of the best of oneself to the loved one. We are not talking about giving the crumbs or the left overs, the scraps. But the giving of the more excellent. Which one has to give.

Any thought word or deed that hinders, or blocks, or takes away from another, or from oneself their chance to grow and evolve bastardizes love.

"All" are responsible within this given unitize system of time and space, on this spinning globe. To share in the creating of the most conducive, engendering conditions for the collective mind, body and spirit for all of humanity and for all of creation.

The good, better, and the more excellent in whatever fields of endeavor, be they of hand, mind or spirit, needs to be the criteria. Anything less denies the excellence of that which has been created for our use and benefit. For we are the inheritors of the excellence of "All and Everything." But even greater than this, we are by birthright, the "image" of the Ineffable, the Author of "All and Everything.

It is true, we cannot demand excellence in thought, word and deed from others. But we can surely ask, invite, implore, suggest, inquire, motivate, persuade, influence, inspire, stimulate, encourage, and cajole, everyone we may cross paths with, if at all possible. We need to remember that more is "caught than taught".

We also need to remind ourselves that life is for the living, for those who are aware and alive to the possibilities and the potentialities of all of life. For those, who are especially aware of all the given gifts and graces that have been so graciously given for our growth and evolution. So we might return back if we so choose; back from whence we came. And the "dead must bury the dead". While at the same time prevent the dead from burying the living.

We only penalize ourselves if we accept indolence and inert-ness; while living among the "hollow people" and embracing mediocrity. Everyone has the possibility to run towards the light, to escape the darkness. To seek out the aware, the alive, those who are becoming and being what they were created to be. To run towards those things that promote, engender and celebrate, the positive possibilities of life. To join with those who are the givers of light. Those who are the living definition of en-lighten-ment. Those who are and have become that which they have always been, "Infinity". The "All in All".

How strange it is that we ignore the mandate, as though it was never spoken; "Be as Your Creator. Be as your Creator, how? Is this possible? Yes! How? Never stop seeking or asking. Never stop becoming and being what you were created to be. If you will do these things, with all your mind, heart and strength. The possibility can be yours. Why?